Online Relationships
Okay so this one is going to be a bit of a rant but I am a speaker of experience.
A successful one.
The people we speak to behind a screen are real people. Infact they are probably realer than 90% of the people we meet face to face in our everyday lives.
And they probably have more heart as well.
The internet is a place where you can vent and see people for what they are inside rather than being shallowly judged on outer appearances or if your in the “IT” crowd or not.
If questioned about online friendship many people would answer with “sure”
and if questioned about if its something real to them they would respond with
“Yeah of course, so and so is a cool person”
Yet when someone falls in love with a person they meet online its still criticised ,laughed at and made into something that many people would be ashamed of. People say that it would never work. That its fake , that its stupid.
That people who take this step dont have a real life. That they are sad, pathetic and desperate.
I beg to differ. Love has no limits and no restriction. When you fall in love with someone online you connect with them emotionally. You create a very special bond with your hearts rather than with sex and physical indulgences. (Don’t get me wrong sex is awesome but having a relationship where you have both of these things is much better than the average fuck around).
Being with someone who can show that they care for you to the extent they would wait until the point its heartbreakingly painful and beyond that, means something. Alot actually.
I’ve had my moments where I’ve cried myself to sleep and curled up in a ball weeping until my head hurts and my eyes are too sore to open. Knowing how far you are from the one that you love kills you inside.
Seriously. Entering a long distance relationship isn’t easy and it requires alot of dedication and will power. It will hurt.It will require a lot of patience.
But its worth it.
Now heres My Story.
I began using the net as an 11 year old who had a fucked up life at home and in school. We wont get into that though.
I made a website ( -.- a very nooby one) and on that website I met someone who became very special to me. For many years I called him my big brother.
I told him everything. I leant on him and shared my secrets and my worries - I really opened my heart. When I was 14 he said he loved me for the first time .Then when I was 15 we became an official couple. We spent hours talking. (Thank God for yahoo messenger voice 32 hours on a phone might have made a big phone bill >.<). When we talked online he sang to me , he gave me those little kisses through the microphone , sometimes he made me little pictures. We stayed up all night , We read magazine articles to each other.
When I had just turned 17 I got myself a Visa and I took two planes alone all the way around the world so I could be with him , even just for a short time. (also I’m afraid of aeroplanes ;-; I freaked out every time there was turbulence)
Every moment mattered and every moment was the happiest that I have ever been in my life.That same man is now my Husband. I love him and that value of that love just increases every single day.
He kisses me awake and he gives me random roses. He leaves me sticky notes on the fridge and drives with one hand just so he can hold mine with the other.Instead of sitting across from me in a restaurant he sits beside me so he can keep my hand in his while hes eating.
I might have had to wait- but all good things come with time and hes many females idea of the ideal male. The waiting was worth it , so so worth it.
And he knows me better than any human being on this earth.
I just wanted to post this to show everyone that if you love someone , you can make things work. Love has no limit. If you want to make something happen , you can make it happen.
We proved alot of people wrong with our story and I was more than happy to shove all of our pictures in the face of the “Unbelievers” .
Just stay strong and if you have something special don’t let it go.
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